The Unwritten Law of Attraction

I understand that guys are enticed by what they see, honestly that’s perfectly fine because that’s just in their nature, but this is the problem. What makes some guys think it is ok to shout derogatory remarks at a woman? I’m walking to work, minding my own business, but there is always a barbarian whose first sentence is based upon sexuality. Now I’m stating it nicely but it’s far from.

I’m sure it’s not only a Caribbean thing so each culture will vary on how it’s done, but at the end of the day this is what it boils down to, disrespectfulness. In their mind it’s always how we dress, really? I’m dressed for work, properly covered so that’s definitely not it.

“Family you look like you could……” Sexy I could do……” “Sweetness I want to……can I……?” Use your imagination to fill in the blanks.

For the life of me, I can’t figure out how a ‘good morning’ gets turned into a sexual slur, then they wonder why I don’t answer, come on! Here is a perfect example and I still can’t get over this since it happened months ago. A guy who looks absolutely scruff as though he rolled off a dirt track before leaving home is following me, “family good morning” being polite I replied, “morning” “So you does watch xXXX?” I was so disgusted by that I responded in a stern voice, “Are you in your right mind?” Obviously he was not! Anyway I chased him off so he apologized. My friends could not contain themselves when I related the story, they found it hilarious.

Another incident this Wednesday, two guys decided to carry on a conversation which was down right stupid as I passed by on my way home. One guy thought I was perfectly sexy and the other thought I was not meaty enough. After their short and loud debate, the guy who found me ‘just right’ expected me to respond to his call out “sexy!” What am I supposed to do, turn around all giggly and blushing, offering my number? Seriously???

This is what I have to deal with every single day.

I think society has gotten so watered down that we’ve lost charm and etiquette. Why is it so difficult for some men to approach a lady with manners? Where are the gentlemen? You know some women are to blame because they are willing to tolerate this. Any lady who uses her brain to think will not be impressed by thoughtless and crude remarks. I think we can do better than that. At least I can do better.